In the relationships I have had, I was the Geek/Nerd, so I have nothing to add to this. Knowing my audience, there have got to be some folks who can relate:
Everyone
has annoying habits, and a sizable part of every successful marriage is
learning to live with those things each other does that annoy you. I
think it's safe to say, too, that geeks have some habits that we think
are awesome, but that non-geeks find a little...less awesome.
Now my wife is a geek,
but she's not as much of a geek as I am, so I asked her for some help
putting together a list of ten things geeks do that annoy their
spouses. She was perhaps a little too enthusiastic about helping out,
but here are the results:
1. Punning - I remember when I was young, and
thought that I must be the only geek (well, possibly nerd at that
point) who loved to pun. Then I went to my first science fiction
convention, and quickly learned
that not only was I wrong, but that there were plenty of far worse
offenders than I. That gave me something to aspire to, of course, which
I did for a while. Since college, I've scaled back on the relentless
punning I used to practice, but I'm sure I'll never quit completely.
2. Using "frak," or Klingon, or both, instead of regular swear words
- Yes, this is a marvelous way to avoid accidentally using real,
English swear words in front of the kids. I suspect that's one of the
reasons it can be annoying to others, though: it's like a loophole in
the no-swearing-in-front-of-the-kids rule. I caught my wife using
"frak" the other day, now that she's gotten into Battlestar Galactica,
too (yes, just as it's about to end), but she claims to have done that
just to make me smile and says is still annoys her when I do it. Still,
I figure she'd be more annoyed by my using real swear words, so I think I'll stick with it.
3. Weird or over-the-top ways of celebrating mainstream holidays
- Geeks rarely do anything by halves, as anyone who's ever been to a
costume contest at a major sci-fi convention can attest. So if we want
to celebrate something we're likely to go all-out. This can mean going to great lengths
with Halloween decorations, or, as I've done several times, making
tentative plans to serve rabbit for Easter dinner and venison for
Christmas dinner (yes, I know, reindeer are caribou, but it's close
enough). No, I've never carried through on these threats plans, but when the kids are old enough not to be upset by the joke I might just. I do insist on playing Tom Lehrer's Christmas Carol at least once each December.
4. Dissecting movies - Geeks, in my experience (and
myself included), have a habit of picking movies apart, particularly
just after watching them. We will discuss everything from the special
effects to the minutiae of costume and prop design, but what gives us
the most pleasure is identifying plot holes (no
matter how small), anachronisms, and goofs in general, and, in
adaptations, picking apart the cuts and modifications. For some reason,
this tends to annoy non-geeks who, I guess, don't enjoy the process.
5. Wearing obscurely geeky T-shirts to "normal" places
- Every geek has at least a few of these; don't try to deny it. We love
them, because we get the jokes and we know that only other geeks will
get them, too. Unfortunately, they can make our less geeky significant
others feel a bit conspicuous when out with us—or maybe they feel the
geekiness will rub off on them, I'm not quite sure. Still, I feel that
if I have to occasionally let my daughter wear a Hello Kitty shirt out
of the house, I can wear my shirts from ThinkGeek
.
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